Really, really ridiculously good looking Friday, February 26, 2010

This pic is of David Gandy (best known for his work with D&G) and I found it on Vanessa Jackman's blog.  Not only is David really, really ridiculously good looking but Vanessa Jackman's blog is also a huge inspiration source for me a'la Sartorialist style. 

L x

P.S. this is what I will be dressing my bf in for this coming winter.... It must be the name... 

Wise words from Gwyneth

I am a devout reader of Gwyneth Paltrow's weekly GOOP newsletter.  But today's issue I found to be particularly interested and wanted to share a part of it with you.  Sorry, I know it is very long and we aren't big on long chunks of text here at D&M, but it is worth the read.

L x

“What do you do when you realize that although you may have years of history, and found real value in each other in times past, that you kind of don't like a friend anymore? That, after time spent with this person, you feel drained, empty, belittled or insulted. My father always used to tell me that, ‘you can't make new old friends.’ How do you distinguish if someone in your life makes you change for the better or if you are better off without them?”



Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel replies:

I appreciate the wisdom in this statement, “We can’t make new old friends.” There is something noble about honoring our history with others. In the context of your question, it also opens a door to an even deeper inquiry: “What does it mean to be a friend?” and “What is our responsibility to others?”

I was wandering around the city today. I enjoy interacting with everyone I meet. People are often much easier to be around when we don’t have history with them – it’s fresh. And this made me wonder...

It seems that the people with whom we share a history we often have a lot of unspoken agreements with. We have agreements that we will stay the same and uphold certain dynamics that are comfortable for us – that make us feel secure. Such agreements can be insidious; we may not even notice them.

We may, for example, share in our relationship a subtle agreement that “Life is hard,” or that “We are the only ones that understand”; or we may agree to share a common enemy. We may hook up with a high school friend on the Internet and agree to relate to them in the same way we did twenty years ago, even though we’ve grown up, have a family, and see the world in a completely different way now. Sometimes in relationships, we agree to deny that something unhealthy is going on, such as substance abuse or illness. Sometimes we agree to take on certain roles in a relationship such as being “the boss,” “the victim,” or “the strong one.” And as part of the dynamic we may have an unspoken agreement to take responsibility for the emotional life of another in a way that is crippling for them — that prevents them from finding emotional independence. Such agreements are challenged when one person starts to change and move ahead in life.

The important thing to recognize about agreements is that it takes more than one person to make one. If we see that an agreement is not serving our well-being and the well-being of our friend, it is intelligent to break it... and it is possible to break an agreement without abandoning the friendship. In fact, it is an act of courage and kindness to ourselves and to our friend.

We are all looking for well-being and happiness in life. So the purpose of friendship is to support and be supported in our search for well-being and happiness. Breaking unhealthy agreements challenges our tendency to withdraw into habitual ways of being that sabotage this intention. At the same time, breaking unhealthy agreements awakens our longing to grow and experience a sense of wonderment about ourselves and the world. There are many ways of being in relationship and this is an opportunity to learn something new.

Of course, there is always a chance our friend may not be interested in working on the relationship with you. That is their choice. But this doesn’t mean we can’t remain faithful to our friend; it doesn’t mean that we have to give up our care for them or our wish for their well-being. There is no need to abandon them. In fact, as citizens of the human race, isn’t it our responsibility to never abandon anyone?

If we live with clarity and integrity, how could it conflict with the well-being of others? Our relationship to others has everything to do with the relationship we have with ourselves, as well as the clarity of our vision. In a larger sense, cultivating love and care for all living beings is the only way to live with integrity and purpose.

Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel is the author of the upcoming book, “The Power of an Open Question” (Shambhala Publications).

Lonny mag is here!!! Thursday, February 25, 2010

Wohoo!  Oh joyous occasion!  Pop the champagne and settle in for a read girls coz Lonny Magazine issue 3 has arrived online!

L x

To bang or not to bang?

The seasons are a changing and it’s time for a hair over hall. Right now I’m loving the locks of Penelope Cruz, Monica Bellucci, Sophie Marceau and Gisele, but most of all Helena Christiensen below. It will be a brave leap for me – having sworn off bangs forever last Summer. Wish me luck! 

C x

P.S.  the hair is great but what the hell is going on with her boobs in this photo!?!?

OMG Natalia Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Have you seen Natalia Vodianova's kids?!?!?  Ridiculously cool!  They are going to be best friends with Shilo and Maddox when they grow up.

L x

(pic of Neva and Lucas from Style me Romy)

Endless love for Erdem

It is no secret that I die for Erdem.  And this season is no different.

L x

Daphne Guiness and her veils

"I started wearing veils like four weeks ago. It's great. It's less pretentious than sunglasses, but it's just like you don't have to wear any makeup, all you have to do is tie a piece of tulle around your head." 

 "It gives you that slight distance from things. Everything's a bit grainy, like a super-eight film. Sunglasses are great, but I always feel a bit pretentious wearing sunglasses. I mean, I do love to wear them. It's very funny because another friend of mine completely independently said, 'Oh my God, I've been going through a veil thing, too.'''

Maybe she does it to try to be unpretentious, however I think she is trying to play the widow card with Lee McQueen. 

Daphne Guiness and David Lachapelle at a NYFW afterparty 

Would you do the veil?

This is actually one of my favourite photos from NYFW.  It looks like she needs a good feed

L x

Daria does Tribal Tuesday, February 23, 2010

March Vogue

Ridiculously cool Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Finish this sentence Monday, February 15, 2010

I want......

(Miranda Kerr at Icebergs - Image from they all hate us)

...to wear that dress and to own those shoes.

My boyfriend wants ... me to have that body.

RIDICULOUS

L x

Birthday eve...

A Sticky Table for 20

Birthday preparations....

My obsession with macaroons continues at Adriano Zumbo's patisserie in Balmain.  With flavours like Vegemite, Black Sesame and Strawberry and Balsamic I was a bit scared but they are honestly the best EVER! This is how we started my birthday... and it only got better from there.  

More birthday pics coming soon...

L x

Lust worthy Monday, February 8, 2010

Morgan has actually declared that she will sell herself to the highest bidder just so she can have these shoes.  Offers are accepted above $2759.   

McQueen's Titanic Ballerina Pump

frozen cocktails Thursday, February 4, 2010

Yes, I know what you are thinking...daggy and so 5 years ago.  But think again!!!  Now it is all about cocktails frozen cryogenically into mini deserts! Think a mojito in a cone...or a champagne icy pole!  Delicious.  

Last week I headed along to Zeta Bar in Sydney's Hilton Hotel to sample this new phenomenon with one of my work buddies and we had a ball.  And guess what!?!? You can head down any Friday after work till the end of Summer and sample this excitement for yourself!  

Our top picks - the pina colada and raspberry mule sorbets.

L x

Simply beautiful Wednesday, February 3, 2010

I had to share this amazing shoot the I found on one of my favourite new sites Style me Romy.  It is stylist, Romy Frydmen's most recent shoot with Sophie Lowe.  Simply stunny.

L xxx

Fashion blitz Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Rain on me!

C x

A beautiful image Monday, February 1, 2010

Vogue Nippon March 2010

Vogue Nippon March 2010